Dig Deep in 2016

As we transition into a new year so many things come to mind: did I accomplish what I set out to do? Was I the best wife, mother, or person I could have been?  Could I have been more helpful to others? Every year I begin to think and pray about what I can do to better myself and those around me.  Then I sit down to write it out and it progresses into my hopes and dreams for the New Year. A resolution suggests you have an answer to something; I am searching for answers, I don’t have them. Years ago I decide a resolution was simply not the best word to describe what I intended to accomplish in the New Year. So I simply don’t use it.

2015 proved to be quite the year and if I didn’t take time to learn from it, I would simply make the same mistakes again and again, as we so often do.  I am the kind of person that truly believes that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. I don’t believe that I have very many limitations and therefore put undue pressure on myself to accomplish more than what is reasonable.  Remember I am an” A Type” personality. I am sure that you are not like me, so I will continue talking to myself in first person!

So what did I learn from 2015 that can help me in 2016? The biggest question I could and should ask myself.  Well, I learned that I am not invincible. And believe it or not, it did come as a surprise to me. I mean come on, I am 46 years old, had multiple back surgeries, never supposed to walk or have children and I’ve had so many x-rays, I should literally glow in the dark! So it’s pretty difficult to get me to believe that I simply “can’t”.  I am not sure if age has anything to do with it or simply that I have become more careful but I have finally decided I need to actually take some things a bit slower than normal. Dare I say, give up, because that will never happen to me, so we shall simply say slow down and take things at a slower pace.

I simply do not do things at a slow pace! I set a goal and jump in with both feet; start high and aim high. What’s the big deal, right? Well nothing if I value walking or simply moving! This year I tried crossfit! All the rage and why not me? Well I can now tell you that it is not for me and that I met my match. My body is simply not made for it and it literally put me out of commission for weeks, after only 2 days people! Not only that but I also learned that I don’t bounce back like I once did. As a matter of fact, I am still moving at a slower pace than normal and this incident was almost 6 months ago!

Fast forward to those dreams and goals left on the table…..now what? Do I give up? Do I simply say, I can’t do it? NEVER in a million years! I must however, learn to do something that I have never truly mastered, working slowly and meticulously towards those goals in order to accomplish them on my terms and not based on someone else’s opinions or ideals. BIG news for me! I have actually realized that I cannot do everything; and that carries over into every part of my life!  I have never been the person who says NO. I help when asked, whether I have the time or not. I do not like telling people NO when they need something. This is a good attribute but can be a demise if you don’t know when and where your limitations are.

So this year I have decided my goals are simply yet multi-layered, DIG DEEP! We all need to dig deep for what we wish to accomplish and let me say that goes into all areas of our life. My family and I decided to have a movie night and start the year off right with last year’s surprise box office hit, War Room! Let me just say that it put so much into perspective for me that I am literally looking at where my “room of war” can be.  I realized that we (that would be most of us) give up too easily on our dreams, our family, our relationships and the list goes on. So for me, this was a huge wake up call to add to my I can’t do it all realization, but God can!

So what now?  I’m so glad you asked! I have summed it up in what I feel are the keys to successfully being you, and fully living the life Christ has for you. These keys will level any playing ground and help you create success in every situation and area of your life: repetition, observation, and self-evaluation.

Studies show repetition will create habits. Habits can be positive and habits can be negative. The key is creating good habits that will offer ROI (return on investment)! Observation is what we do all day every day; we observe people, practices, and if we are smart, we learn from those observations. Lastly self-evaluation – what good is any of this if we are not willing to stop and give ourselves a little look over, to see if we have implemented any of the above. What good is it to go through life if you’re not going to try to correct, repair, or rebuild YOU and your relationships?

Many of you are now going to expect me to lay out an exercise plan for the year and how to make it happen. (I will say that will be part of what I will implement this year, in a slower, smarter pace. No more cross-fit for me!) Truthfully, I have come to the realization that prayer is truly the answer for everything in life! The bible says “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” Philippians 4:6-7

Now let’s put things into perspective. We need to pray with repetition (it will most certainly produce an ROI). We need to observe situations and people that we are praying for. We need to take time for self-evaluation: are we hitting the mark with our prayers. Of course these three things are meant to be implemented into every part of life. Just think how much more productive, successful and less stressed we will be! And yes, I purchased my Battle Plan for Prayer book and bible study to help me get started! Stay tuned!





Heart Health Month: Let’s Go RED

Many of you know that February is heart health month; what most people don’t know is that heart disease is the number one killer of women in the US. Yesterday I had the opportunity to attend the NC Council for Women and American Heart Association Go RED for Women Day. I met some wonderful people, heard stories from survivors, listened to great tips on eating out, had some cooking lessons, and most importantly learned about prevention and signs of heart disease.

I will start by telling you upon parking my car at the NC Department of Education Building, I immediately realized that I had locked my keys, purse, phone, and everything else in my car! Not a great way to start the day but I was determined not to let that stop me. After being welcomed by the police at the front door, a one hour wait on AAA, and peaking my head in and out of the event, I finally made it to my seat!

A cooking demonstration by Antoniette Martin, Director of Health Ministries

The stats on heart disease are definitely staggering. Did you know that 2,200 people in the US will die per day this year because of this disease? 800,000 people in the US will die this year because of heart disease. 17 million will die this year.

The good news is that we can prevent it. If you follow my blog or FaceBook post, you will know I am all about making better choices and that is how we can kick this disease! Watching our diets by choosing heart healthy foods and getting moderate exercise for 20 minutes a day will drastically reduce our chances of contracting this deadly life stealer.

The problem is that most women don’t recognize the signs or warnings of a heart attack. This link will provide you with a list of warning signs you may not be aware of http://womenheart.site-ym.com/?page=Support_Symptoms. Take time to review the signs so that you are in a position to recognize symptoms and get immediate help.

I met Marietta Wagner. She has had 3 heart attacks, a stint, and triple bypass surgery; unbelievable to hear that her first heart attack was at the age of 30! This stuff is real. We need to educate ourselves and learn to make better choices for our health before it is too late!

Marietta Wagner of WomenHeart

I learned how to make heart healthy oatmeal cookies, and my new friend Wade Harris, owner of Raleigh Personal Fitness had us exercising while we ate! We enjoyed a fashion show by ladies who have all survived the disease or had family members touched by it.

Wade Harris of Raleigh Personal Training

My biggest take away from the event was simple, how can we bring awareness and educate others on prevention and save lives! Thank you Gale Wilkins, Executive Director NC Council for Women, for hosting this amazing event with American Heart Association; I am a better person because I came…….

Gale Wilkins Executive Director, NC Council for Women

Listening to the testimonies of survivors

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The 2014 Revolution: Choose2Change!

It’s that time again!  Another year has come and gone and we are well on our way to 2014.  Many of us have undergone some serious changes this past year, some by choice and some not.  One thing remains the same; we now have the opportunity to make the most of every situation we are given in 2014.

As we start this New Year we will be faced with many choices.  Most people start the year with a New Year’s resolution and many of those will choose to break it within the first month, if they last that long!

This year, I want to challenge you NOT to make a New Year’s resolution but to make a New Years REVOLUTION!

Resolution comes from the root word resolute which means firmly resolved, set in purpose.  Revolution is most commonly known as it relates to politics and history.  But it literally means a sudden, complete or marked change in something; a complete turnaround.

As I look at the two, I am convinced that a resolution can be easily broken but a revolution must be followed through.  You cannot begin to make a complete turnaround without a complete follow through!  And that my friend requires CHANGE!

Last month, I was blessed to have been named, Mrs. District of Columbia International 2014.  My platform is, “Chose2Change”.  This is the message I am focused on and I am convinced will change your life!  Each day the average person will make 612 decisions per day; who knew?  That equates to 773,618 decisions over a lifetime – and unfortunately most people will come to regret 143,262 of those.  Not every decision is life threatening but each one has the potential to create “change” in your life and the lives of those around you.

It is important for us to note that when we make a choice, it not only affects us, but it affects those around us.  For this reason there is the potential, over time, to completely transform our surroundings!  I mean let’s look at something as simple as cutting out junk foods and eating fruit, veggies and lean meats (this is called clean eating by the way).  We could add years of healthy living to our lives, turn back the aging clock, decrease our cholesterol, reverse diabetes and heart disease and the list goes on.  This is really a simple choice that many people just don’t think twice about.

Let’s look at our actions!  I just lost half of you didn’t I……?  No worries, we all need to make room for improvement there!  Maybe we should think twice before we speak to our boss and get a pink slip because of it, or to our husband who just messed up plans we made three weeks ago, or our children who are simply learning how to navigate life in their teenage years; we might be able to make a better choice of our words and have a different outcome.  We have all heard, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it” and how true that is.

How about making a choice to get involved in our community instead of always complaining about it?  Maybe we should take a day to pick up the trash at the entrance of our subdivision instead of attending the homeowners meeting only to bring attention to the fact that there is trash at the entrance of the subdivision.

If you see someone in need, how about helping them to get re-acclimated into society instead of bashing them and the unfortunate situation they happen to be in.  Some people just need someone to believe in them to make a difference in how they see themselves.

Maybe you know a friend who has family member that just found out they have a life threatening disease.  What is your response?  Do you say, “oh my goodness”, or do you choose to get involved and help raise funds to find a cure?

My point is simple; you can “Chose2Change” just about anything in your life.  If you are faced with a situation you have no control over, you can certainly change the way you look at it.  That within itself, holds the potential to turn around your attitude and your attitude is the key to EVERY situation!

No more resolutions but a REVOLUTION; a marked change and a complete turnaround in YOUR life!   This is the year that can change the rest of your life!  You have the opportunity to walk through open doors, make possibilities reality and make a difference not only in your life but in the life of others!

We CAN do this!  Let’s make 2014 the absolute best and choose2change the way we live our life!  It really is that easy!

Yours by Choice and for Change,


When you make choices that bring about changes, you create destiny!

We are now in the fifth month of  2011.  As with any year, it is filled with choices for us to make, changes for us to see, and challenges yet to be reached.   Most people make a new years resolution.

How many of you made a new year resolution.  How many of you have already broken it?

The Lord began to deal with me the end of last year about a few things and I no longer make a new years resolution.  Mostly because they are never kept.

See I am a very analytical person, I figure things out, I fix them that is just how He created me so when He speaks to me, He gives me scenarios.

If there is one thing I am sure of, its that the choices we make today will bring about change and that change will bring about and restoration in your life, the life of your family and the life of your church revival, refreshing ultimately leading you to your destiny!

  • Resolution comes from the root word.  Resolute which means firmly resolved set in purpose
  • Goal – the result or achievement toward which effort is directed.
  • Challenge – something that by its nature or character serves as a call to battle, contest, special effort

I felt something rise up inside of me and say, this year I challenge you.   I’m always up for a challenge and knew that change was on its way!

My challenge was to make choices that bring about changes that lead to destiny!

Then the Lord began to deal with me about some specifics regarding my personal life, my family, and our ministry.

I changed the way I eat, I walk 2-3 miles a day, I began to look at myself differently than in years past.  As a wife and mother, many of us put our needs, thoughts and wants to the side to make sure our family is taken care of first.  That is just the way we are and I do believe that it is good. 

However I have learned that just because we have a family, we do not have  to settle for less for ourselves.  We must maintain and strive for our goals and continue to challenge ourselves each day with Gods word and with His guidance we can achieve anything we set our minds to.

I have made personal choices that have brought about changes in the way I look, feel and act.  These changes are being felt throughout our family, our ministry and I can see them reflected in my future!

  • Revive – yourself, your dreams
  • Refresh – your body, your mind and your spirit
  • Restore – your family and relationships

It all starts with you, your choices and the changes they bring!