As we transition into a new year so many things come to mind: did I accomplish what I set out to do? Was I the best wife, mother, or person I could have been? Could I have been more helpful to others? Every year I begin to think and pray about what I can do to better myself and those around me. Then I sit down to write it out and it progresses into my hopes and dreams for the New Year. A resolution suggests you have an answer to something; I am searching for answers, I don’t have them. Years ago I decide a resolution was simply not the best word to describe what I intended to accomplish in the New Year. So I simply don’t use it.
2015 proved to be quite the year and if I didn’t take time to learn from it, I would simply make the same mistakes again and again, as we so often do. I am the kind of person that truly believes that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. I don’t believe that I have very many limitations and therefore put undue pressure on myself to accomplish more than what is reasonable. Remember I am an” A Type” personality. I am sure that you are not like me, so I will continue talking to myself in first person!
So what did I learn from 2015 that can help me in 2016? The biggest question I could and should ask myself. Well, I learned that I am not invincible. And believe it or not, it did come as a surprise to me. I mean come on, I am 46 years old, had multiple back surgeries, never supposed to walk or have children and I’ve had so many x-rays, I should literally glow in the dark! So it’s pretty difficult to get me to believe that I simply “can’t”. I am not sure if age has anything to do with it or simply that I have become more careful but I have finally decided I need to actually take some things a bit slower than normal. Dare I say, give up, because that will never happen to me, so we shall simply say slow down and take things at a slower pace.
I simply do not do things at a slow pace! I set a goal and jump in with both feet; start high and aim high. What’s the big deal, right? Well nothing if I value walking or simply moving! This year I tried crossfit! All the rage and why not me? Well I can now tell you that it is not for me and that I met my match. My body is simply not made for it and it literally put me out of commission for weeks, after only 2 days people! Not only that but I also learned that I don’t bounce back like I once did. As a matter of fact, I am still moving at a slower pace than normal and this incident was almost 6 months ago!
Fast forward to those dreams and goals left on the table…..now what? Do I give up? Do I simply say, I can’t do it? NEVER in a million years! I must however, learn to do something that I have never truly mastered, working slowly and meticulously towards those goals in order to accomplish them on my terms and not based on someone else’s opinions or ideals. BIG news for me! I have actually realized that I cannot do everything; and that carries over into every part of my life! I have never been the person who says NO. I help when asked, whether I have the time or not. I do not like telling people NO when they need something. This is a good attribute but can be a demise if you don’t know when and where your limitations are.
So this year I have decided my goals are simply yet multi-layered, DIG DEEP! We all need to dig deep for what we wish to accomplish and let me say that goes into all areas of our life. My family and I decided to have a movie night and start the year off right with last year’s surprise box office hit, War Room! Let me just say that it put so much into perspective for me that I am literally looking at where my “room of war” can be. I realized that we (that would be most of us) give up too easily on our dreams, our family, our relationships and the list goes on. So for me, this was a huge wake up call to add to my I can’t do it all realization, but God can!
So what now? I’m so glad you asked! I have summed it up in what I feel are the keys to successfully being you, and fully living the life Christ has for you. These keys will level any playing ground and help you create success in every situation and area of your life: repetition, observation, and self-evaluation.
Studies show repetition will create habits. Habits can be positive and habits can be negative. The key is creating good habits that will offer ROI (return on investment)! Observation is what we do all day every day; we observe people, practices, and if we are smart, we learn from those observations. Lastly self-evaluation – what good is any of this if we are not willing to stop and give ourselves a little look over, to see if we have implemented any of the above. What good is it to go through life if you’re not going to try to correct, repair, or rebuild YOU and your relationships?
Many of you are now going to expect me to lay out an exercise plan for the year and how to make it happen. (I will say that will be part of what I will implement this year, in a slower, smarter pace. No more cross-fit for me!) Truthfully, I have come to the realization that prayer is truly the answer for everything in life! The bible says “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” Philippians 4:6-7
Now let’s put things into perspective. We need to pray with repetition (it will most certainly produce an ROI). We need to observe situations and people that we are praying for. We need to take time for self-evaluation: are we hitting the mark with our prayers. Of course these three things are meant to be implemented into every part of life. Just think how much more productive, successful and less stressed we will be! And yes, I purchased my Battle Plan for Prayer book and bible study to help me get started! Stay tuned!